A few months ago I was contacted by a ex of mine out of the blue who let me know that I was going to be one of her referees as part of her foster carer application.
She gave no choice about wanting to do this I was just told that I was acting as one of 3 references along with ex fiancée, who she split up with last year much to my delight and her adoptive mother.
Recently I began to hope that her application had been unsuccessful because I hadn’t heard a peep from Kent County Council.
I was just left feeling and angry and upset after being contacted by the Business Support Officer for the Fostering team at KCC last Friday (17th of May) asking if I could complete a short survey about the named applicant.
The survey asked questions around What is your previous and current relationship with the applicant and do you think that the applicant would be a good foster carer.
I replied to the Business Support Officer by saying that I hadn’t heard from there client in a number of months and wanted it to stay that way, she replied by saying that was absolutely fine.
However I was thinking to myself, please don’t touch this toxic individual with a bargepole because it will not end well for her or any young people that you place with her.
As most of my readers and followers will know I was in a toxic relationship with the person in question for seven years, she physically and mentally abused me for the 2555 days that we were dating.
I will never forget the time that we were in public and I said something that she didn’t like so she punched me in the bottom of my stomach, there was also a time that she had a full blown tantrum because we had agreed to go out somewhere and she changed her mind so decided to lie on my bed and kick off.
I would strongly urge the fostering team at KCC not to employ her as a foster carer because she will put the lives of children and young people at risk something that I’m not prepared to live with.
My message to the team at KCC is a simple one, please please please look into the background of this applicant. They have struggled to keep a stable job and have abused partners in the past, this does not bode well for any young person that you put into their care.
If I had to give them indirect message to the individual It would be this, stop with these flipping shenanigans. I was really really really concerned when you first told me of your intentions and I still am today.
This has to stop. We both know that this will not end well for either you or any young person that is placed into your care.
Please just leave me alone and stay living where you are . I don’t want anything to do with you.
You are a toxic person!!!!!
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